Big Feelings Toolkitby Connected First
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Discipline with Connection

Connection first. Teaching second. Consequences last.

When do consequences actually teach?

Teaching works best after everyone is calm.

  1. 1Keep everyone safe.
  2. 2Help your child regulate.
  3. 3Reconnect.
  4. 4Teach the missing skill.
  5. 5Use a logical consequence if it helps reinforce learning.

A consequence should help a child learn — not suffer.

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